You and your ex took the difficult decision to pursue a divorce. It certainly wasn’t easy, but it was the best thing for your family in the long run. While you and your ex might be able to see this, it is not always an easy scenario for your children to digest.
As you are settling into the new custody arrangement, you’ve noticed that your child has become distant. Why might this be the case and what can you do about it?
Divorce brings a lot of change
Even an amicable divorce can be stressful, and the whole family is going to have to go through several changes. For instance, perhaps you have now left the family home and got your own place. Maybe your ex and child had to leave the family home too. Change is something that children tend to find difficult. They much prefer a stable routine while developing. If you and your co-parent can remain amicable and ensure the child that your love for them remains the same, this can be a great source of comfort.
Facilitating discussions
Your children may not fully understand what is going on and why the divorce has happened, but they are bound to have questions. Answering these questions can divert the child from wrongfully blaming themselves. Make sure you take the time to listen to your children. If they seem frustrated, then can you really blame them? Sometimes, utilizing age-appropriate communication methods, such as games, can help to provide the child with the clarity they are craving. There is no reason why your child can’t thrive post-divorce, but it can take time. As you navigate the custody process, make sure you have legal guidance behind you